Divorce is scary and confusing. You’re asked to make lots of important decisions at a time when you (or your spouse) may find it hard to think at all. And if only one of you wants the divorce, things will be even tougher. So if you’re feeling frustrated, pressured, at sea, or unclear about what services you need or want, I’m not surprised. If you do have a clear idea of what you’d like to work on, that’s great– we can dive right in. But if you don’t yet know what questions to ask, that’s ok too. After all, even if one or both of you has been divorced before, this is the first time for the two of you.
Here are just a few of the issues you might want help in addressing:
“We are considering separation, but our kids are little. Would it be better to wait?”
“We want to divorce, but we don’t want things to get ugly. What are our process options?”
“What are the differences between negotiation, mediation, and Collaborative Divorce?”
“We want to separate, but we don’t want to involve lawyers yet. Can we work with you on our parenting plan and see a lawyer later?”
“We are working with a mediator on financial and legal issues, can you do our Custody Agreement?”
“I want to move out, but I don’t even know where to start!”
“I have to move out of state, so we need to change our parenting plan. Can you help?”
“My spouse wants us to work out our parenting plan with you. I’m not sure; I think I might need my lawyer by my side. If we work with you, is that possible?”
” I want to work this out peacefully, but my spouse just wants to fight!”
“I’ve been divorced a year and a half, and my ex still treats me like the enemy! I’m worried about our kids.”
Many individuals and couples who are either considering separation, have decided to separate, or already separated or divorced come to me for help sorting through their concerns and needs in order to come up with a plan that makes sense. It’s part of my job to listen carefully and use my experience and expertise to help you figure out where and how to start.