Building on the concepts in their book Mastering Crucial Moments in Separation and Divorce, Lisa Herrick and Kate Scharff will discuss how to view our clients’ divorce challenges within the context of ordinary human development. Letting go of the known, and moving forward to something new often involves loss- in both normal life as we grow up, and during the transitions involved in divorce. Therefore, when our clients struggle with decisions, resist moving forward, or show great fear of change, we can understand their difficulties through a developmental lens. This presentation will explore these concepts with a goal of connecting them to the work we all do every day.